As a coach of a young boy’s soccer team, i would observe how they would turn up on game day.All excited and psyched up for a big game.This of course was great, but not the most important thing.
You could be as psyched up as you like, but the probability of hitting that perfect 30 metre pass would depend on how you practiced it.
When it comes time to trap the ball perfectly so that it doesn’t bobble away from you and allow your opponent to take the ball from you, that would depend on how you trained for it.
The probability of you beating your opponent to the ball in a contest for the ball will depend on your level of fitness and practice that has gone in long before the game.
Always treat yourself like a champion by preparing like a champion.
Rubber Necking or Gratitude Stacking?
Have you ever had the experience of being caught up in traffic moving at a snails pace , only to find down the road some distance was a traffic accident?The accident may have been cleared away some time ago, but everyone is still slowing down to take a look at the damage done.This is rubber necking.
We could go by the same place on another day, right when there is an absolutely gorgeous sunset taking place and wiz by without even noticing it.This is the way our brain is wired.We are constantly on the look out for everything that threatens us.It is a survival mechanism.Our brain was wired for survival, not happiness.
The good news is that we can re- wire the neural pathways in the brain by training it consciously toward gratitude.An attitude of gratitude is one of the greatest character traits of the happiest people in the world.Escalating it can be achieved through training our attention.
On a recent trip into a rain forest, our guide displayed an incredible heightening of his awareness and appreciation that was envious.He noticed every chirp, tweet(No mobile phones allowed here) whistle, howl and crackle in the rainforest.He brought to our attention what bird, insect or animal we were hearing.He draws our attention to the various pungent odours given off by the different plant life.The crisp, fresh smell of an eco- system brimming with life.His vision is acute and points out the amazing patterns of the spider webs with the rain drops glistening in the sun light.He never misses a butterfly, frog , lizard, or evidence of their existence.Whilst he was completely disconnected from one web, he was totally caught up in the amazing web of life.
We all want the result to go our way come game day, but everything depends on how we prepared.Each day, when we wake up, don’t just go through the motions of another day.Instead of just trying to get through the day, see what you can take from the day.What were the key distinctions?
Be present enough to pay attention.What were the major learning opportunities? Was there an opportunity to make a meaningful connection, touch somebody with a kind word or even just a smile.It could make the world of difference to that person just at that time.
The Tragedy of the Current Age.
You never know what amazing things you could miss out on whilst having your head down in cyber space.
According to Scientists, the smart phone has left humans with an attention span that is shorter than that of a goldfish.The decline started around the same time as smartphones came into prominence.It has fallen from 12 seconds in 2000 to 8 seconds in recent times.A Goldfish apparently can hold a thought for 9 seconds.
If we can’t focus on something for long enough to get good at it, how do we develop our competencies?
How do we listen effectively to someone to gain real understanding if we cannot concentrate without being distracted.How do you feel if you are trying to have a serious conversation with someone whilst they are looking down at their mobile phone all the time?
We live in a time when a person may have 500 Facebook friends, but not one of whom they may turn to for support with real problems.
We live in a time when our children commit suicide from cyber bullying. The cyber world has commanded far too much attention and influence. We desperately need to take control of our inner world in order to take control of our outer world by making real connections with real people and talking about real problems. As John Donne stated “No man is an island”. So often we try to muddle through by ourselves and then end up participating in a quick fix, instant gratification, stimulant or addiction to get us through the day and just end up compounding the problem.
Be the Guide and not the Tourist.
The best way to see what you can take from the day instead of just getting through the day is to be consciously present.
Be a participant, not a spectator.
Be the creator, not the consumer.
Be responsive and not re- active.
Live by design, not by default.
See what you can notice today that you didn’t notice yesterday.Ask some questions of your friend, relative or work colleague that shows that you are taking an interest and then really listen for their answers.Not just to give them advice or make a judgement of them, but to try and gain understanding.Being involved in the ebb and flow of life is to master the art of seeing everything as on the way and not in the way of a grander plan.
By always thinking of ourselves as athletes in training, we can see ourselves as being a constant work in progress.Progress toward a heightened self- esteem which is a major benefit of developing competencies from developing focused intention and attention.Until we see ourselves as being capable of controlling our own game, we feel that we are just pawns in somebody else’s game.
At a time when so many are zoned out in the dimension of distraction, it is imperative now more than ever that we realize that today is game day.Be sure not to miss it.
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